A Guide for Parents

If you are the parent of a transgender teen, this book will help you understand what your child is feeling and experiencing.

Helping Your Transgender Teen begins with the basic information you and your family need. The central chapters of the book address the fears and concerns most parents of transgender teens share. The final chapters guide you through the steps you can take to discover what is best for your child. Although written for parents, this book is also useful for pediatricians, therapists, educators and others who work with teenagers and young adults. Helping Your Transgender Teen provides answers to many of your questions about adolescent gender identity.

Selected for the American Library Association's 2012 Over the Rainbow list of "books that exhibit commendable literary quality and significant authentic lgbt content and are recommended for adults over age 18."

Click here for advice for Transgender Teens
Click here for questions to ask teens to understand more about their gender identity

Other Books for Kids, Youth and Parents, click here

Additional Resources for Parents of Transgender Teens

Resources in Connecticut and New England:

Recommended therapists in CT helping trans teens and their families.

True Colors: Sexual Minority Youth and Family Services 860-649-7386 True Colors runs a wonderful conference for GLBT youth every March and provides support year-round. Their Resource Guide (available online) lists therapists with transgender expertise.

Translations and TransPACT: Support groups for transgender youth and their parents. Contact Tony Ferraiolo: 203-376-8089 or

PFLAG in CT has meetings in numerous locations. Their meetings offer support to transgender teens and adults as well as family members and allies. Click here to see the schedule of upcoming meetings.

The Connecticut chapter of the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network ( GLSEN CT ) is working to ensure safe schools for all students.

Located in Portland, Maine, Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families throughout New England, as well as summer and fall camps.

Camp Aranu'tiq is a weeklong, overnight summer camp for transgender and gender-variant youth ages 8 through 15.

Camp Anytown is opening a gender expansive cottage this year (2016) for Connecticut or Western Mass teens ages 14-18. AND...they are giving full scholarships.

Legal advocacy: GLAD is New England’s leading legal rights organization dedicated to ending discrimination based on sexual orientation, HIV status and gender identity and expression.

National and online resources:

Black Trans Advocacy  is the leading national resource working to advance black transgender equality. They are active in 14 states providing local community building and support, public education and training, mentoring and referral to program services. Check the website for locations.

Campus Pride serves LGBTQ and ally student leaders and campus organizations to create safer, more inclusive LGBTQ-friendly colleges and universities. The Campus Pride Index ( is a free online database of LGBTQ-friendly campuses.

PFLAG provides support for LGBT people and their families, friends and allies. Chapters are located throughout the U.S.

Facebook: Parents of Transgender Children; Parents of Transgender Kids

GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network) is the largest national education organization working to ensure safe schools for all students. Go to GLSEN's Transgender Student Support page for a webinar for educators and publications for parents, students and educators.

Gender Spectrum Lounge is an online space for teens, parents, and professionals to connect with one another. Members can form their own groups and participate in a broader online community.

The LGBTQ Teens Online Talk Group is a weekly live, moderated chat room for youth up to the age of 19, Tuesdays from 4-6 pm, Pacific. 

National Center for Transgender Equality has, among other supports, information about state and federal documentation changes.

Scholarships & Resources for LGBTQIA+ Students: STEPS promotes diversity and equal opportunity education.

Seattle Children's Hospital "Teenology 101" blog has a series of informational blogs about transgender teens.

TransActive Gender Center provides education, training, support services, advocacy and public policy guidance.

TransFamily has a moderated online discussion group for parents and a separate group for youth.

Transathlete is a resource for students, athletes, coaches, and administrators to find information about trans inclusion in athletics.

TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation provides education and advocacy along with supports for trans youth.

TransParent has support groups for parents with transgender children in 4 states and the Disctrict of Columbia. Check the website for locations.

Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families

Trans Youth Family Allies (TYFA) empowers children and families by partnering with educators, service providers and communities, to develop supportive environments in which gender may be expressed and respected.

Trevor Space is a free, monitored social and peer networking site for LGBT youth ages 13-24.

Phone and Online Crisis Support for LGBT Youth in the U.S. and Canada

GLBT National Help Center (US): or 888-843-4564

Trans Lifeline: US: (877) 565-8860 and Canada: (877) 330-6366.

Trevor Project (US): (888-4-U-TREVOR) is a confidential 24/7 crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth.

Youthline (Canada): Open from 16:00–21:30 Sunday–Friday. (Toronto time zone) Call: 800-268-9688. Text: 647-694-4275. TTY: 416-962-0777. Email: To chat, go to and click the Chat button at the top of the page.

Legal Advocacy in the U.S.:


Lambda Legal:

National Center for Lesbian Rights:

Sylvia Rivera Law Project:

Transgender Law and Policy Institute:

Transgender Law Center:

Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund:

"I have a transgender teen son... When he first told me he was transgender about 9 months ago, my husband and I didn't even know what that was and tried to convince him to be gender neutral and were afraid how his future would look. I found your book on line and wanted to tell you it was immensely helpful!"
-- Cindi L.

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Health Information,
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International Organizations,
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Publications Available Online:


  • Schools in Transition: A Guide for Supporting Transgender Students in K-12 Schools 

  • Supportive Families, Healthy Children: Helping Families with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Children


  • Model District Policy on Transgender and Gender Nonconforming Students
  • Safe Space Kit
  • Resources for educators including LGBT-Inclusive Curriculum


  • Beyond the Binary: A Toolkit for Gender Identity Activism in Schools


  • Safer Sex for Trans Bodies


  • Bathrooms and Locker Rooms: Understanding Your Rights
  • Bending the Mold: An Action Kit for Transgender Students
  • How Schools Can Support Transgender Students


  • Coming Out as Transgender to Your Latino Family: Tips from a Trans Latina Counselor


  • Transgender Kids: What Does It Take to Help Them Thrive? by Francine Russo


  • Links to videos and other resources for parents.


Four useful resources for finding a therapist experienced in the treatment of transgender persons in your area:

1. The website of Dr. Becky Allison:

2. TransPulse

3. The World Professional Association for Transgender Health
From the home page click on "find a provider", then enter your State (if you are in the U.S.)and click on "submit".

4. The Fenway Center provider list includes mental health and medical providers nationwide, but especially in the Northeast.

If possible, it is best to verify independently that the therapist you find is fully credentialed and licensed. You can do this by speaking with a local health care provider.

En Español:

Lambda Legal es una organización nacional que defiende y lucha por los derechos civiles de lesbianas, gays, bisexuales, personas transgénero y personas con el VIH en los Estados Unidos a través del litigio, la educación y las políticas públicas.

El Proyecto de Aceptación Familiar es una iniciativa que examina el impacto que tienen la aceptación y el rechazo familiar sobre la salud y el desarrollo en jóvenes lesbianas, gay, bisexuales y transgénero.

A La Familia: Una Conversación Sobre Nuestras Familias, la Biblia, la Orientación Sexual y la Identidad de Género.

American Psychological Association Respuestas a sus preguntas sobre las personas trans.