A Guide for Parents
by Irwin Krieger

If you are the parent of a transgender teen, this book will help you understand what your child is feeling and experiencing.

Helping Your Transgender Teen begins with the basic information you and your family need. The central chapters of the book address the fears and concerns most parents of transgender teens share. The final chapters guide you through the steps you can take to discover what is best for your child. Although written for parents, this book is also useful for pediatricians, therapists, educators and others who work with teenagers and young adults. Helping Your Transgender Teen provides answers to many of your questions about adolescent gender identity.

Selected for the American Library Association's 2012 Over the Rainbow list of "books that exhibit commendable literary quality and significant authentic lgbt content and are recommended for adults over age 18."

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Click here for questions to ask teens to understand more about their gender identity

Phone Consultations for Parents

If you would like to consult with me by phone, please email me

or call me at 203-988-7018 to schedule a phone appointment. My fee for phone consultations with parents is $80 for a 40 minute phone session, with additional time prorated to the length of the call.

Additional Resources for Parents of Transgender Teens

Resources in Connecticut and New England:

Recommended therapists in CT helping trans teens and their families.

True Colors: Sexual Minority Youth and Family Services 860-649-7386 True Colors runs a wonderful conference for GLBT youth every March and provides support year-round. Their Resource Guide (available online) lists therapists with transgender expertise.

Translations and TransPACT: Support groups for transgender youth and their parents. Contact Tony Ferraiolo: 203-376-8089 or

PFLAG in CT has meetings in Hartford, Manchester, Norwalk, Guilford as well as the New London area. Their meetings offer support to transgender teens and adults as well as family members and allies. Click here to see the schedule of upcoming meetings.

The Connecticut chapter of the Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network ( GLSEN CT ) is working to ensure safe schools for all students.

Located in Portland, Maine, Trans Youth Equality Foundation provides education, advocacy and support for transgender and gender non-conforming children and youth and their families throughout New England, as well as summer and fall camps.

Camp Aranu'tiq is a weeklong, overnight summer camp for transgender and gender-variant youth ages 8 through 15.

Camp Anytown is opening a gender expansive cottage this year (2016) for Connecticut or Western Mass teens ages 14-18. AND...they are giving full scholarships.

With offices in Bridgeport and West Haven, CT, Dr. Ilja Hulinsky is a highly experienced endocrinologist in transgender health care.

Endocrine services are also available through the Gender Identity Program at CT Children's Medical Center in Hartford. Their website lists therapists with transgender expertise and trans-friendly pediatricians.

Legal advocacy: GLAD is New England’s leading legal rights organization dedicated to ending discrimination based on sexual orientation, HIV status and gender identity and expression.

Conferences, click here

Health Information, click here

National and online resources:

Trans Youth Family Allies and TransActive help families work with schools and service providers to develop support for transgender kids. Their websites have good information about advocating for your child.

Accepting Dad is a blog of one parent's journey to acceptance of transgender with listings of resources and support groups for parents as well as books for gender-nonconforming (or gender-variant, or transgender) children.

Parents and Friends of Lesbians and Gays: Since 2002, PFLAG has a Transgender Network focused specifically on promoting the health and well-being of transgender persons, their families and friends. If there is a local PFLAG chapter in your area, you are welcome to attend as the parent of a transgender teen.

Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network is the largest national education organization working to ensure safe schools for all students. Go to GLSEN's Transgender Student Support page for a webinar for educators and publications for parents, students and educators.

The Trevor Project (888-4-U-TREVOR) is confidential 24/7 crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBT youth.
Trevor Space is a free, monitored social and peer networking site for LGBT youth ages 13-24.

Seattle Children's Hospital "Teenology 101" blog has a series of informational blogs about transgender teens.

For a list of links to transgender health information websites, click here.

Listservs (email-based groups for sharing support and information):
***Washington DC Children's National Medical Center, contact
*** TransFamily in Cleveland hosts listservs and also provides information and support. For the listserv, click on "Boards" and then "Parent Specific."

Facebook: Parents of Transgender* Kids

Legal Advocacy:
Transgender Legal Defense and Education Fund

Transgender Law Center

Transgender Law and Policy Institute

En Español

Lambda Legal es una organización nacional que defiende y lucha por los derechos civiles de lesbianas, gays, bisexuales, personas transgénero y personas con el VIH en los Estados Unidos a través del litigio, la educación y las políticas públicas.

El Proyecto de Aceptación Familiar es una iniciativa que examina el impacto que tienen la aceptación y el rechazo familiar sobre la salud y el desarrollo en jóvenes lesbianas, gay, bisexuales y transgénero.

A La Familia: Una Conversación Sobre Nuestras Familias, la Biblia, la Orientación Sexual y la Identidad de Género.

American Psychological Association Respuestas a sus preguntas sobre las personas trans.

"I have a transgender teen son... When he first told me he was transgender about 9 months ago, my husband and I didn't even know what that was and tried to convince him to be gender neutral and were afraid how his future would look. I found your book on line and wanted to tell you it was immensely helpful!"
-- Cindi L.

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Also available in print or Kindle at Amazon's international sites.

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Books for Kids

I am Jazz, Jennings & Herthel; Jacob's New Dress by Hoffman;  Michael and Me, M. Baker-Street

Books for Youth

Gender Quest Workbook by Ryland Testa and others

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, ed. Laura Erickson-Schroth

novels: I am J by Cris Beam; Luna by Julie Anne Peters; Parrotfish by E. Wittlinger

memoirs: Rethinking Normal by Katie Rain Hill;    Some Assembly Required by Arin Andrews

Books for Parents

Artistic Expressions of Trans-gender Youth, by Tony Ferraiolo

The Gender Creative Child by Diane Ehrensaft, PhD

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, ed. Laura Erickson-Schroth

Transgender 101, Nicholas Teich

The Transgender Child by Stephanie Brill and Rachel Pepper

Transgender Explained For Those Who Are Not by J. Herman

Transgender Family Law ed. by J. Levi & E. Monnin-Browder

Transitions of the Heart edited by Rachel Pepper


Just Add Hormones, Matt Kailey

Redefining Realness, Janet Mock

Second Son, Ryan Sallans

She's Not There, J.Finney-Boylan

Testosterone Files, M.W. Valerio

School Activism

Bending the Mold: an action kit for transgender students, available from

Beyond the Binary: a toolkit for gender identity activism in schools, available from


Four useful resources for finding a therapist experienced in the treatment of transgender persons in your area:

1. The website of Dr. Becky Allison:

2. Laura's Playground

3. The World Professional Association for Transgender Health
From the home page click on "find a provider", then enter your State (if you are in the U.S.)and click on "submit".

4. The Fenway Center provider list includes mental health and medical providers nationwide, but especially in the Northeast.

If possible, it is best to verify independently that the therapist you find is fully credentialed and licensed. You can do this by speaking with a local health care provider.

International Resources
Vancouver Coastal Health and Trans Alliance Society
China: Transcending Borders
Ireland: Gender Ed
United Kingdom:
Mermaids and Gendered Intelligence
South Africa: Gender Dynamix